Musings whilst shaving and sleeping

I needed a bath today. I’ve been in need of a good bath for weeks now, but today, I got one.

I shaved my legs. Took one of those disposable razors and started carefully removing the hairs from my legs. My stream of thoughts was loud at this point, and it made this particular shaving session quite profound. Translating this to the form of a post might not do the words any justice, but I’m taking the risk.

As I drew the razor over my leg, I thought of the men in my life. Not the real men, but the fictional men that keep me up until the early hours of the morning, sometimes driving me insane. I thought of Jase Cavanah and James Hunter, and how they shave their heads, and the why of it. The easiest explanation is that they’re both based on a man who does shave his head himself, but there must be more to it than that.

I thought about my attitudes to shaving. I’m relatively new to the razor. It always scared me in the past, and I used a ladyshave up until the point where I completely forgot where it was. When they shaved my mound in the hospital, I found it wasn’t painful or scary at all. So, I bought razors. And I am getting used to the feeling of a razor, which can be quite daunting at first, but is really not bad at all.

Not that much later in the day, I tried to sleep some more, but my brain was racked with thoughts of something that happened last night. I was perusing through the archives of a fellow blogger, and noticed that she had nominated Furry Girl (the controversial Feminisnt bloggess who publicly attacked adult performer and founder of Femina Potens, Madison Young, for her choice to be photographed breastfeeding her child and talking openly about her life and motherhood) for the top 100 Sex Bloggers of the Year list.

I wondered if this was before, or after the controversy. And my opinion about the situation began to form. Now, feel free to not take me seriously. I am, after all, a 20 year old singleton without kids. But I do have a very valuable source on pregnancy and the joys that breastfeeding bring, in the shape of my mother. I’ve seen most of the female side of my family bear and raise children. And they all assured me that breastfeeding is normal.

So, why is this Furry Girl person accusing Madison of sexualising breastfeeding, when the only person doing such thing is Furry herself?

It’s not because she’s in the porn industry that everything she does automatically relates to sex. Fuck, I bet she even buys bread in the morning! Is that sexual?

It’s easy to forget that porn performers are, in fact, human beings (just like we often do with the Glitteratti in Hollywood). We seem to think that they are actual fucking machines, programmed to do nothing that doesn’t involve sex in some way, shape or form.

A good example of this is put forward by Jada Fire in Chemistry 3, where she talks about guys who assume that she likes it rough because she performs in scenes where rough sex happens.

Here’s the news. They’re all human. They have a life outside porn.

James Deen edits films for Joanna Angel’s Burning Angel label

Derrick Pierce and Christian are avid videogamers.

Danny Wylde is not only a musician, he is also a bloody good writer and has published several articles.

And Madison Young is a mother, an artist and the creator of Femina Potens, a nationally recognised art gallery and performance space dedicated to the advancement of women and transgendered artists, which came to life in 2000.

Breastfeeding has bog-all to do with sex. Madison is not “traumatizing” her child, nor is she a “paedo”. Calling someone a paedo for performing one of the most natural acts in all of mankind is wrong.

I support Madison. And therefor, I am not ashamed to post this picture.

Now, if you don’t want to listen to me about this, because I’m just a sex blogger who isn’t in the business, fine. Instead, listen to the awesomeness that is Kitty Stryker, who had some things to say about the subject herself.

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  1. Hear hear! As someone who has a son and who breastfed for 9 months I totally agree with you. Too many people try to sexualise it and I struggled with people’s perceptions the whole 9 mths from being asked to leave places and also sit in a toilet to feed my son. Feeding her son and being a mother has nothing to do with he being a porn star.

    • Thanks Phoenix 🙂 I was really insecure about posting this, as it’s my first opinion piece, but it’s good to know that you feel the same. Fuck them for making you breastfeed your son in a toilet.

  2. Great post, I think you did the right thing writing it. Plus, you expressed your opinion strongly but I don’t imagine you’ll have pissed anyone off with this too much as it wasn’t offensive or anything.

    Also, I totally agree with you. 🙂

    • My original text was far more crass, but I wasn’t very happy with it and decided to just speak from the heart. So, thank you for reading and not finding it rubbish 🙂

      And thanks for agreeing 😀

  3. Well said… and I agree completely

    • Thank you for dropping by, Buddha 🙂 It was a subject I had taken to and it took a long time before I was able to form an opinion.


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