Yes, yes, I’m still alive. I’ve not gone anywhere or done anything.
Anyway, to make up for my absence, have some TMI Tuesday. June is apparently now Adult Sex Ed month (which I can only applaud) and in honour of that, this week’s TMI Tuesday covers all matters sex ed.
June is Adult Sex Ed Month (twitter: #AdultSexEdMonth). The movement was started by blogger @GoodDirtyWoman on twitter. Please read more here: http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/june-is-adultsexedmonth/
1. Have you ever investigated having an open relationship?
– Have you tried to have an open relationship?
I’ve neither investigated nor tried having an open relationship. It’s something I’m not really interested in.
2. Do you have any sexual phobias?
– What have you done to manage or overcome them?
Depends on what you mean by “phobia”. If you mean an actual phobia (like coitophobia or gymnophobia), then no, I don’t think so.
If you mean being scared of a particular sexual act… well, I haven’t yet tried anything that I’m particularly frightened by. I have things that pose a bit of a mental barrier for now (anal play being one of them) but that’s something to tackle further along the line.
3. What is the best new sexual activity you have tried in 2013?
Rubbing his penis against my wet slit, with the head against my clit.
4. Have you ever called into a sex advice radio/television show or written to a sex advice columnist?
– Was it helpful?
I haven’t. I tend not to trust that type of advice.
5. Would you use the services of a sex therapist? Why or why not?
Depends what kind of situation I am in at that moment.
6. Should sex therapists be allowed to engage in actual sexual activities with clients? Why or why not?
Okay, there is a bit of a difference between sex therapists and sexual surrogates. Keep that in mind. The film The Sessions is the story of a man who was paralysed from the neck down by polio. Having never had sex, and sensing that he’s close to death, he decides he wants to lose his virginity. He contacts a professional sexual surrogate who agrees to try and help him have mutually satisfying sex.
That is what a sexual surrogate does. Not what a sex therapist does. So to answer your question, no. Because that’s not their job.
Bonus: Have you read any adult sex ed books lately? What do you recommend?
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, The Field Guide to F*cking by Emily Dubberly, Ecstasy is Necessary by Barbara Carrellas, amongst others. Depends on what you want to learn about, really. If you want to learn about the kink community, Playing Well with Others by Mollena Williams and Lee Harrington is supposed to be excellent. The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex by Tristan Taormino is brilliant. The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot by Violet Blue…. Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus, Ultimate Guide to Fellatio, Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women,….. I could go on.